It’s Not Easy Being A Man

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The world today regularly communicates to us, “It is not easy to be a woman.”  This is the message being communicated through magazines, television, and the internet.  While I will not disagree with that observation, I do feel it is important to also say, “IT IS NOT EASY TO BE A MAN!”  Or let me say it this way, “IT IS NOT EASY TO BE A GODLY MAN!”

Let me share a few reasons why I believe it is difficult to be a Godly man.  By no means is this an exhaustive list, but it will help us to get an idea of the challenge before us.

1. The Culture Around Us

The world around us will let men be men as long as it is a man who has little conviction, virtually no courage, hardly any expression of emotion, a pluralistic faith, and no desire to be a leader.  These types of men will always be embraced by the world, but God calls us to something more.  Men shouldn’t take cues from the world, but instead from the scriptures.

2. The Bar Is Set So High

Being a Godly man is a height that few of us will ever consistently attain.  We have pride, egos, and selfishness, that keep us from being the selfless men the Bible calls us to be.  How many of us truly love our wives as Christ loved the church?  It isn’t easy being a man.

3. The Absence of Fathers

For every good father who pours himself into his children the way that he ought, there are at least two fathers who are unwilling to give their children any direction in this life.  Studies show that children without a father in their home are significantly more likely to be obese, go to prison, and make poor grades in school.

It is not easy to be a man and that is why we need one another.  The bible says: As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another (Proverbs 27:17).

At Valley View Christian Church we desire to raise up a generation of men who God can look down upon and say, “That is a church full of men after my own heart”.  We do this through men’s studies, trips, and events that are designed to help us become more of the man God created us to be.  If you would like to know more about the men’s activities at Valley View please email Phillip Holland at



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Phillip was born and raised in Kentucky. He earned his B.A. in History from Hastings College and his M.A. in Biblical Studies from Louisville Bible College. He also served as a Preaching Intern at Southeast Christian Church in Louisville, KY. He and his wife, Laura, have two children, Madison and Isaiah. He is passionate about learning and teaching people about Christ (and cheering for the Louisville Cardinals!). Phillip oversees adult discipleship at Valley View.